Quote of the Day

“What if our strongest wish was to be praised . . . not to be loved or understood or desired? . . . What would our relationships be like? . . . We might find ourselves saying things like: The cruelest thing one can do to one’s partner is to be good at fidelity but bad at celebration. . . . Or it’s not difficult to sustain a relationship but it’s impossible to keep a celebration going. The long applause becomes baffling.”
–Adam Phillips, a London shrink, writing in Monogamy, quoted in the NY Times.

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  1. Richard says:

    Adam Phillips isn’t just any old London shrink. His books are totally amazing. On Kissing, Tickling and Being Bored is my favorite, but most are wonderful.

  2. FeelingFlirty says:

    I think he’s spot on. We all come together to get our needs met and we’re all different. We don’t choose our needs. Maybe this is a part of why so many relationships break down.

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