I was kind of thrilled to see Louis Gray jump in with a lovely and honest post and say “I’d like to read more women bloggers,” and kind of distressed to see Steve Hodson point to Stephanie’s Quilao’s powerful posts on sexual discrimination and feeling denigrated because of her appearance/gender as evidence that there are fewer female bloggers, or women in tech, because those mean old sexist men just make it too unpleasant for them.
From my perspective, while Steve probably means well, that assumption is on a par with saying women don’t become doctors because the mean old physicians and all that messy, red blood just drive them away. Like, ugh.
Steve says: “We as a society like to propagate the whole equality line but the reality is that there is no equality for women unless they have nice legs and big tits. No matter how as males we would have the world believe otherwise the fact is we continue to look on women as sexual objects and nice decorations to have around the office and make unwanted passes at.”
This is the biggest line of bullshit anyone supposedly sympathetic to women has thrown in a while.
Steve, let me try to break it down for you:
- Sexism hurts men and women both, and is bad for business
- A few assholes don’t define everyone
- Pointing to problems that need to be resolved and saying, as you seem to be doing, “Oh, these problems mean that this is just how things are and we need to understand that,” doesn’t create positive change, it just justified keeping things as they are.
Honey, if you think women are less involved with tech because K athy Sierra got death threats, you’re not dealing in reality here.
My suggestion is you stop lumping all men and all women into absolute groups and realize that there are male feminists, women chauvinists and the rest of us in the middle, trying to do the right thing and learning as we go along.